force in society. It is literally the beginning of all
things evil and a huge waste of money.
If a woman is insecure, it is often expressed in
her hating something about her body, completely
neglecting how sick her mind appears to others
who are watch her self-flagelate.
Then the woman has to seek solace in women's
magazines which invariably abuse women's egos.
They tell women:
10 things men hate about women
10 things men hate about women's bodies
10 things men hate about insecure women
so, women are always buying the latest thing and
blaming it on their insecurity.
Things are so bad that there's a magazine which is
trying to calm women down and although it doesn't
appear to be a very literate magazine, most of
what it says is pretty clear.
my spin on the issue:
If a guy is looking at you, only a sick one would
be looking for your flaws. If a guy looks at a woman,
the chances he's sizing her up for a date, not a
Gok Wan session, although breasts will be bared,
either way.
As the song says I'm not mr. right, I'm mr.
right now. That's how we think.
So, women, relax, but don't throw away all the
skin-tight clothing that we like so much. Keep
the tight stuff. That way we can sense arousal
easier.
the
"WHAT WOMEN THINK THAT MEN THINK ABOUT WOMEN"
article
my head is getting dizzy
Checkit: FORGOT TO GET THE NAME of the mag
Just
for me today
What
Men Really Think About Your Body
Posted
In Health & Wellness
You
Say “Flawed”, He Says “Sexy”: What Men Really Think About Your Body
By
Claire Casey
This
may come as a shock to you but guys have different eyeballs than you do. You
know why I’m saying that?
Because
when YOU look at yourself in the mirror, you see that front tooth that’s a bit
crooked, the line where your bra presses in (you call this your “back fat”),
the too-small breasts or the too-wide rear, your goofy knees, funny toes…. The
list goes on and on.
But
you know what your MAN sees? A woman he’d love to strip naked and get busy with
right this instant, maybe sooner. My personal body part confession… Maybe you
have a muffin top “thing,” but I used to HATE my feet.
When
I was a teenager, I had surgery on my big toes (bunions, it’s such an ugly
word!!) and for the next 20 years I zealously covered my feet. I never EVER
owned a pair of sandals or open-toed shoes and would have died before I let a
man openly look at my feet. I have a big scar running the length of both big
toes. My second toe is longer. My feet are… wanky. You know. Ugh, I could make
myself MISERABLE thinking about my feet.
Shockingly,
amazingly, wonderfully, I found a man actually willing (he would say,
desperate!) to marry me.
I
hope you’re laughing now, but at the time, I found it next to impossible to
think about what kind of man would marry me “even with these feet.”
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ways MEN see your body…
If
you asked my man which of my physical attributes attracted him, it’s really
hard for him to move past the standard T&A answer you’d probably get from
any man. You can almost see a physical effort as he drags his sex-craving brain
past the chest, past the butt, and FINALLY he’ll tell you something like, “She
has gorgeous shoulders…”
I bet
he didn’t even know I had scars on my feet for the first 10 years we were
married.
Here’s
the thing: Men see your body in three ways, and it’s nothing like the way you
see yourself.
1.
They see what makes you WOMANLY
This
means when they look at you they instantly notice the things about your body
that make you uniquely a woman. Breasts, hips, ass, curves… Even the way you
walk. It’s nearly impossible for a red-blooded heterosexual male to notice
anything before they read the parts of your body that say: I am a woman.
Your
arm flaps do not make this list. Your cellulite does not make this list. Your
stretch marks do not make this list. Sorry.
2.
They see what makes you UNIQUE
That
chipped tooth you hate? They think it’s kind of charming. The muffin top? They
can’t see it because it’s too near your ass, which they think is the finest
thing in nine counties. Do you think your lips are too thin? They just love it
when you smile at them. (And truthfully, when they think about your lips on
their body, they are NOT thinking “Oh her lips are too thin.” I PROMISE.)
If
guys notice a particular body part of yours that you think makes you hideous
(and I guarantee you they would never use that term) they just think it makes
you uniquely…you! And since it’s YOU they are desperate for, they want that
part of you as much as the others.
3.
They see what you constantly draw their attention to
This
is where you have the power to rock or ruin a relationship.
When
you constantly complain about your own body, a man’s desire to enjoy and love
you are being eroded a little at a time. In other words, you’re rejecting him.
He thinks, “I could touch her body all day,” and you say, “I’m too flabby.”
You’re not only tearing yourself down, you’re tearing HIM – his thoughts, his
desires for you, his excitement about you – down.
And
it works the other way, too. Show off your pedicure (I do, now!), go
sleeveless, wear that backless dress, and ruthlessly tease him with the body he
absolutely adores.
Editors
Note: Listen to the story of how an average woman “tamed” renowned relationship
expert Michael Fiore, and “magically” got HIM to decide it was time to stop
playing the field and date only her. (Play Video Below)
